The Number-one reason married couples come to New Hope Counseling Service simply stated is: “We have a breakdown in communication.”
Unless you are out of touch with the community around you, it is a known that the break down in the family structure has reached epidemic proportions.
Although not playing the blame game through the following reminder, Scripture is clear that the husband/father is the Spiritual leader in the family structure. He, of course, is to be supported fully by his wife the mother of their children. Often times she is the primary parent exercising direct supervision over the children.
Without a doubt, today perhaps more so than ever, the family unit is under severe attack. The Christian family, in particular, is under attack at times by so-called religious- based groups who ignore God’s plan for the family.
The foundation of the family, as Christians know it to be, was laid in the Garden of Eden. We learn this from Genesis 2:24:
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Dr. Ed Wheat in his book, Love Life: For Every Married Couple, says, “These twenty-two words sum up God’s entire teaching on marriage. All else that is said emphasizes or amplifies these three fundamental principles originated here, but never changes them in the slightest.”
A continuing theme in this series has been: An Ounce of Prevention is Worth a Pound of Cure.
This lesson logically follows that which was taught regarding a breakdown in communication in any relationship but here specifically in marriages.
When a couple reaches a point in communicating where they say literally or figuratively I don’t, can’t or won’t they must return to a point where they can say “I do.”
We couple this time-tested truth with the following question: What Christian would abuse another when practicing the Word of God? The answer is obvious.
Today "submission" is often viewed as a curse word making the following biblical principle difficult to grasp.
Why? The hurdles to understanding are due to a misapplication of definitions, usage and context.
This biblical principle, or tool, states:
If you submit, God is in control.
If you resist, others are in control.
Note: The words wife and husband do not appear in this biblical principle.
Recently we have been looking into several aspects of communication breakdown that is the Number One reason people come to New Hope for instruction and counseling.
What do we, as a counseling ministry, when two people who once said, “I do,” now say: I don’t, I can’t or I won’t?
Before embarking on the mechanics of the solution two parties at odds with each other need to examine their commitment to healing the here-to-fore unresolved issue(s).
To help them arrive at their individual level of commitment to their marriage we give them a piece of paper on which is written four words in this configuration