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Jul 17th

Godly Relationships

Six Reasons Marriages Fail: Reason 4: In-laws

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      It was stated earlier in listing six reasons marriages fail each failing marriage has its Number One reason. Listing in-laws as the fourth reason doesn’t mean it ranks in fourth place. It could be Number One in some marriages.

      I’ll launch this study with a question:  In-laws or Out-laws?

      The answer:  That depends on several things not the least of which is how long the couple has known each other, and do they know each other’s families?

      It is a sobering thought when engaged couples realize when they marry they are also marrying the entire family. Well, not exactly, but nevertheless a new relationship is entered into that encompasses more than just the couple.

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Six Reasons Marriages Fail: Reason 3: Sex

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      As previously mentioned, this section of our discussion pertains to behavior within the realm of marriage. In pre-marital counseling I teach that engaged couples can practice all the aspects of marriage while dating – except living together and/or having a sexual relationship.

      Overall we are looking at Six Reasons Marriages Fail. Thus far we have examined Role Reversal, Money and now Sex. We will conclude with In-laws, Religion and Life Dominating Sin.

      Like money, sex is not the most important aspect of the marriage relationship; but it is a barometer concerning what is going on in a marriage relationship.

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Husband and Wife Role Reversal

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      For many years we were told the three problem areas in marriage were money, sex and in-laws.

      Study, personal observation and many years counseling has caused me to add three categories to this infamous trio:  Husband/Wife Role Reversal, Religion and Life-dominating Sin.

      When creating a list there must be a first item a last and those in between. Starting with Role Reversal and ending with Life-dominating Sin does not mean they rank in that order. Each marriage would have to be evaluated to determine the Number One problem area. Any one of these six might be at the top of a list.

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Six Reasons Marriages Fail: Reason 2 Money

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      The mere mention of the word money evokes a variety of thoughts and emotions in many individuals.

      The Bible is perhaps one of the most quoted and misquoted books ever written. For instance, it is often stated the Bible says money is the root of all evil - but not so.

      Actually, First Timothy 6:10a reads:  “For the love of money is the root of all evil.”

      Regardless of how money affects any person’s mind and emotions, money is one of the six reasons marriages fail.

      Money can be problematical in other types of relationships, but our focus on money is how it can affect marriages.

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The Number One Source of Our Problems

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      We are the Number One source of our own problems – and this is the good news!

      If God were the Number One source of my problems I would not want to contend with an omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent Being on a daily basis to ward off problems.

      If Satan was the Number One source of my problems I would not want to contend with an un-seen adversary who “as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.”

      Yes, other people’s poor choices vitally affect us, but even so, I would not want to contend with every one around me who is trying to control me and fit me into their mold.

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