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In our previous discussions, we explored traditional family values and the biblical foundation of marriage. We examined how marriage contributes to human happiness. This week, we will examine the universal institution of marriage. We will explore its significance across various cultures and history. We will discuss the current decline of marriage in modern society. Finally, we will cover the biblical perspective on marriage’s necessity and purpose for Christians.
Marriage Across Cultures and History
Marriage has been a universal institution since the dawn of civilization, transcending cultures, religions, and periods. Historically, marriage has been recognized as a vital social contract that promotes stability, continuity, and the well-being of society. Across different cultures, marriage has taken various forms, but its core purpose has remained consistent: to unite individuals in a committed, lifelong partnership.
Hebrews 13:4 states, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” This verse highlights the sanctity and honor of marriage as a divine institution. Despite cultural differences, marriage has always been regarded as a sacred and honorable bond.
Historically, societies have relied on marriage to maintain social order and stability. For example, in ancient Rome, marriage was essential to continue the family line and transfer property and social status. In traditional African cultures, marriage was a communal affair, with families and communities playing significant roles in arranging and supporting the union. These cultural practices underscore the importance of marriage in creating a stable and cohesive society.
The Decline of Marriage in Modern Society
Despite its historical significance, marriage is facing a decline in modern society. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the percentage of married households has steadily decreased over the past few decades. In 1960, 72% of American adults were married; by 2020, that number had fallen to just 50%. This trend is not unique to the United States; many countries worldwide are experiencing similar declines in marriage rates.
The decline of marriage has significant implications for society. Research shows that married individuals generally experience better physical and mental health, higher economic stability, and greater life satisfaction than their unmarried counterparts. The decline in marriage rates is associated with an increase in cohabitation, single-parent households, and births outside of marriage, all of which can adversely affect societal stability and the well-being of children.
A comparison with historical norms reveals the stark contrast between past and present attitudes toward marriage. Historically, marriage was seen as a necessary and desirable institution for the well-being of individuals and society. Today, however, the emphasis on individualism and personal fulfillment has devalued marriage as a societal cornerstone.
Impact on Institutions, Governments, and Children’s Welfare
Marriage plays a crucial role in the functioning of various societal institutions, including the family, education, and the economy. Stable marriages contribute to the stability of these institutions by providing a supportive environment for individuals to thrive. Governments also recognize the importance of marriage and often implement policies to support and encourage it, such as tax benefits for married couples and family support programs.
The decline of marriage particularly impacts children’s welfare. Research consistently shows that children raised in stable, two-parent households fare better in terms of academic achievement, emotional well-being, and social behavior than those raised in single-parent or cohabiting households. The presence of both a mother and a father provides a balanced environment that promotes the healthy development of children.
Is It Necessary for a Christian to Marry?
What is the purpose of marriage? The Bible has a lot to say about this topic. Since the first marriage was between the first man and the first woman, it is assumed that marriage is God’s will for most people. It was instituted to dispense innocence and is a holy institution. The first reason that the Bible gives for the existence of marriage is simple: Adam was lonely and needed a helper (Genesis 2:18). This is the primary purpose of marriage—fellowship, companionship, and mutual help and comfort.
Purpose of Marriage
Marriage creates a stable home where children can grow and thrive. The best marriage is between two believers (2 Corinthians 6:14). They can produce godly offspring (Malachi 2:13–15). In Malachi, God tells the Israelites He will not accept their offerings because they have been unfaithful to the wives of their youth. This shows how much God cares about keeping the marriage intact. He tells them He seeks “godly offspring.”
This passage is puzzling and has several interpretations. First, godly offspring may be the purpose of marriage. Second, a good marriage between two godly people produces godly children. Third, God wanted the Israelites to stay faithful to their wives. Fourth, leaving their wives for foreign women produced ungodly offspring due to idolatry. Fifth, God seeks His offspring (the people) to exhibit godliness through faithfulness. In any interpretation, we see a common theme: the children of faithful people tend to be loyal, too.
The Sanctifying Power of Marriage
Not only does marriage teach children how to be faithful and give them a stable environment to learn and grow, but it also sanctifies both marriage partners when they submit to God’s law (Ephesians 5). Every marriage has difficult moments or dynamics. When two sinful people try to create a life together, they must submit to God’s command to love each other as God has loved us—selflessly (1 John 3:16).
Our attempts to follow God’s commands in our strength tend to fail. That failure tends to make the believer more aware of his dependence on God and more open to the Spirit’s work in him, which tends to result in godliness. Godliness helps us to follow God’s commands. So, marriage benefits the one trying to live a godly life; it helps scrub the heart clean of selfishness and other impurities.
Marriage as Protection Against Sexual Immorality
Marriage protects individuals from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 7:2). The world is rife with sexual images, innuendo, and temptations. Even if a person doesn’t pursue sexual sin, it pursues them, making it hard to escape. Marriage provides a healthy place to express sexuality, avoiding severe emotional and physical damage from casual, non-committed sexual relationships. God created marriage for our good (Proverbs 18:22) to make us happy, promote a healthier society, and produce holiness.
Marriage beautifully represents the relationship between Christ and His church. The body of believers, the Church, is collectively called the bride of Christ. As the Bridegroom, Jesus gave His life for His bride “to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word” (Ephesians 5:25–26). His selfless act provides an example for all husbands. At the second coming of Christ, the Bridegroom will unite with the church. The official “wedding ceremony” will take place, and the eternal union of Christ and His bride will be actualized (Revelation 19:7–9; 21:1–2).
Conclusion
Marriage has been a pillar of societies across cultures and history. Despite declining rates, its importance remains vital. Marriage stabilizes societal institutions and benefits individuals’ and children’s development. Let us uphold marriage and foster a society that values and supports this union.
Call to Action
As we reflect on marriage’s universality and significance, let us commit to upholding and promoting it. By doing so, we honor God’s design for marriage and contribute to society’s stability and well-being. Let us pray for strength and wisdom to navigate modern society’s challenges while adhering to timeless principles of marriage.
References
- Pew Research Center. “The Decline of Marriage and Rise of New Families.” Link
- The Heritage Foundation. “Marriage: What It Is, Why It Matters, and the Consequences of Redefining It.” Link
