It is Not Good for the Woman to Be Alone

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It is not the Way

The way of an eagle in the sky,

The way of a serpent on a rock,

The way of a ship in the middle of the sea,

And the way of a man with a maid. (Proverbs 30:19)

Ben Shapiro, in a YouTube Short Video, “Why Single Women Vote for Biden,” had this to say: 

“What do you end up with if you have an entire group of people—single women—who are falling behind married women, who are not engaged in a social structure, who have had the most important mediating institution in human existence, marriage, ripped away from them? They’ve been told that it’s no longer essential. It’s not important. In fact in many ways, it’s an institution that hems them in and harms their creativity.”

“So, what do [these women] require? Well, they’re going to require a couple of things. [For one,] they might require some government help. Why are single women voting at a larger clip for bigger government? This would be the answer. This is why. I mean Joe Biden knows his own constituency. This is why, you will recall, the Joe Biden campaign actually put out what they called the “Life of Linda.” In the “Life of Linda,” [this] is exactly who Joe Biden thinks he is talking to—it is these women. Linda is a working mother in Peoria, Illinois. She works at a local manufacturing facility as a production worker, and earns forty-thousand dollars per year. She is pregnant with her son Leo.”

“Now where’s Dad? He doesn’t exist. [There] is no doubt.”

There’s a reason that Dad doesn’t exist. If we put the case in military terms, he basically either surrendered, or he went absent without leave. Given the heavy weight of social reconstruction that men—and boys—have been forced to accept and endure, this should be no surprise. The enemies of the male sex are these: feminists, Marxists, mass media and marketing, youth worship, and in turn, the dwindling supply of mentoring fathers. We can also throw into the mix, the developing issue of accelerated acceptance of homosexuality and gender dysphoria. 

Historically, men, by far, have always been attracted to the opposite sex—just as women have. [Of course there must have been exceptions throughout recorded history; the Bible identifies homosexuality as sin in the eyes of God early in the Talmud. Read Leviticus 18:22. As recently as February, statistics revealed, The percent of US adults who identify as something other than heterosexual has doubled over the last 10 years, from 3.5 percent in 2012 to 7.1 percent, according to a Gallup poll released Thursday.” ]

Missing fathers have been stamped with the pejorative term of “sperm donors.” What do we call missing workers? Sons of sperm donors.

Horribly, this is the sum and substance of the greatest existential threat American primacy has ever seen.

Historically, people of either sex (yes, Im avoiding the term gender intentionally) will—given no reason otherwise—accept who they are, and embrace their respective roles at least willingly, if not altogether enthusiastically, without serious reflection. But at this point, it seems that paradigm has been completely upended. The issue of fathers as irrelevant has developed, slowly at first, then gained real momentum in the sixties on onto the seventies. The contributing factors are a deeply flawed sexual liberation, role confusion, and something most of us had little idea was intentional: a long, slow political assault on the family, especially targeting the father. Not coincidentally, he has been but one part of the assault on the institution of marriage, the Church, and the author of it all: God himself.

Now, in the post-pandemic social experiment, there exists a new cultural phenomenon that has a significant number of observers scratching their heads. Men, and to a lesser extent, women, are no longer interested in working a job. Mike Rowe talked with Brian Kilmead about this phenomenon that really hasn’t been discussed in the nation’s town square.

The Scottish poet Charles MacKay wrote: “Men, it has been well said, think in herds; it will be seen that they go mad in herds, while they only recover their senses slowly, one by one.” I think this is a deep truth, and I can only hope and pray that we will soon see the recovery phase begin soon. 

It comes down to this: the security and meaning authority provides. Dean Gotcher explains the phenomenon of abandoning responsibility, meaningful living and relationship—for what amounts to carnal pleasures—with the relationship to the authority of our Father-God. God is replaced with a “dopamine emancipation” i.e. the pleasures of the moment. Abandoned are: obedience, accountability, humbleness, denial, self-discipline, and self-control.

Our natural fathers used to provide these essential “bumper guards” for raising boys to men, but not anymore. The authority of both earthly and heavenly Father, have been replaced by the father-state. Both men and women—but especially men—simply can’t thrive, or for that matter really even survive, under that authority. Gotcher quotes Irvin Yoram, (pictured) a leading child psychologist who reveals how and why this was made to happen:

“Group therapists [facilitators] refuse to fill the traditional authority role: they do not lead in the ordinary manner, they do not provide answers and solutions [teach right from wrong], they urge the group [the children/the students] to explore and to employ [their] own resources [dialogue their ‘feelings,’ i.e. the desires and dissatisfactions of the ‘moment’ in the “light” of the situation].” (Irvin YalomTheory and Practice and Group Psychotherapy

Yalom, and his colleagues have it all wrong—dangerously wrong. Because men and women are created in God’s image, His design demands discipline and authority; this is sine qua non—not to quell the joy of life—but to ensure it remains. This is what ensures meaningful life and living. 

This brings us back around to the observation Shapiro makes about single mothers preferring big government, and voting accordingly. Women have been raised with the same addiction to dopamine emancipation, but because they are female, they still have a deep desire for security, support, and protection. Not many women can abandon the need for security and still fill the innate need to nurture. Often, left with no better choice, they turn to father-state for their safe-keeping. This is enough to upend election predictions, and demonstrate my point.

Even though there are people who won’t dare admit it, men and women do need each other, to complement each other, and define the beautiful need for marriage–traditional marriage. God designed all of these things for our benefit. The prince of darkness, is doing all he can to destroy them. This is why people who don’t know God have trouble understanding why there is so much confusion and distress, and puzzle over what seems to them, not all that important. But it is.

  • For as the woman originates from the man, so also the man has his birth through the woman; and all things originate from God. (1 Corinthians 11:12)

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Shenandoah Christian Alliance is a Christian organization devoted to the promotion and education of biblical truths, faith, and spiritual equipping. We believe in the sanctity of marriage as defined in God’s revealed word. We oppose the practice of abortion, and respectfully object to its funding and facilitation as currently promoted by our elected leaders. We understand homosexuality to be something that God—whom we worship and honor—does not approve among his creation. Our faith in God as revealed in scripture is not something we are ashamed of, or for which we must apologize.